Q : My wife and I have decided to try swinging. What should we expect on a first meeting with another couple? – T. M., Johannesburg
Q :Don’t expect anything. That way, you won’t be disappointed. In most cases it takes at least two dates before couples are comfortable enough with one another to have sex. (In other cases, it takes two minutes.) In the event that you or your wife aren’t interested in a swap, work out a subtle signal to alert each other. One couple we know both turn over a spoon at dinner.